Thoughts on Love and Marriage - A Kid's Perspective
Eamon is very preoccupied with marriage. He is always mentioning which girl he wants to marry someday (and sometimes, which boy - we do live in the San Francisco Bay Area, after all, so he's seen both kinds of couples), but the names change almost weekly. Last week it was Robin or Annie. Then it became Sophia or Vika's friend Aimee (he's branching out to older girls). He also says he wants to marry me, or Vika, or some other family member. I just remind him that marriage is about making someone you love a part of your family. Since Vika and I are already his family, he can't marry us. I also am constantly telling him that since he is only 7, he doesn't need to worry too much about marriage just yet. He should save that for when he's older.
Then came an enlightening discussion with Babushka about "Sassy Girls" vs. "Cool Girls" (you can read her write-up of it here). According to Vika and Eamon, "Sassy Girls" are girls that wear short skirts, high heels, and cropped shirts so their bellies show. They are also really flirty and act like they're so pretty. Cool girls wear cool clothes but don't show their bellies. They act like themselves and aren't mean to other girls. Eamon told my mom that he wants to marry a Sassy Girl. So she dispensed the sage advice that Sassy Girls are fun to look at, but Cool Girls are the ones you marry. Eamon nodded as if he understood and the subject was changed.
However, later he said something which showed that the topic was still clearly on his mind. "Mama," he said. "I think you're right. I shouldn't worry about getting married. It's making my head go [insert crazy face and frantic hand movements here]."
I imagine deciding which kind of girl to marry would be a bit daunting for a 7 year old. Hopefully in 20 years or so, he'll have figured it out.
Then came an enlightening discussion with Babushka about "Sassy Girls" vs. "Cool Girls" (you can read her write-up of it here). According to Vika and Eamon, "Sassy Girls" are girls that wear short skirts, high heels, and cropped shirts so their bellies show. They are also really flirty and act like they're so pretty. Cool girls wear cool clothes but don't show their bellies. They act like themselves and aren't mean to other girls. Eamon told my mom that he wants to marry a Sassy Girl. So she dispensed the sage advice that Sassy Girls are fun to look at, but Cool Girls are the ones you marry. Eamon nodded as if he understood and the subject was changed.
However, later he said something which showed that the topic was still clearly on his mind. "Mama," he said. "I think you're right. I shouldn't worry about getting married. It's making my head go [insert crazy face and frantic hand movements here]."
I imagine deciding which kind of girl to marry would be a bit daunting for a 7 year old. Hopefully in 20 years or so, he'll have figured it out.
too funny. it is so eamon for thinking that way. Olivia and kevin talk about marrying one of us too. it is normal
I'm just hoping his teeth come back in before he has to find a wife!
He wants a sassy one, does he?! lol.
I wish I could tell Eamon it gets better. But I'm 37 and men still make my head go [insert crazy face and frantic hand movements here].
You know it's fascinating. Before having kids, I would have assumed that a girl would be more obsessed with marriage talk and thoughts than a boy. But it's the exact opposite with our kids. Anton has long been really hung up on who he wants to marry, who he's fallen in love with etc., and Alina pretty much wants nothing to do with those conversations. Interesting that Eamon seems to give it as much thought as Anton does! I wonder if all boys are like that or only ours.